Has she had surgery?!

Whenever I tell people that Callie is transgender it's always followed up by tons of questions some highly inappropriate such as "has she had surgery yet?!" I'm not sure when it became ok to ask someone if their four year old had reconstructive surgery, they're literally asking me what's between my kids legs. Normally when people ask me this it takes me a second to respond because I'm silently judging them, so to just set the record straight-NO! She has not had surgery yet and will not have it until she's at least 18 years old. There's no way I would let my four year old go under the knife for something that serious at such a young age. I know what you're all thinking, if she's truly a girl I should let her have surgery because she needs to have all the parts. You thought wrong, what's between her ears is more important than what's between her legs. As for hormones, which is normally the next question, she can start those when she's 13. She will also has start male puberty blockers(I'm seriously not able to think of the stupid word today there's a real name for it) when she's about 11-13 years old. She has already begged me to make sure she doesn't go through male puberty. I can't say I blame her, she's a girl she doesn't want an Adam's Apple or any other male features. I've already spoken to her doctor who agrees that the moment we all agree it's time we'll start her on the blockers, if we were to wait and hold off it would end up being five million times worse for her. Over all I think our game plan is set for what steps we need to take and when to take them, as for asking if she's had surgery I'd appreciate if you don't ask that not just to my daughter but to ANY transgender person you may meet.