Birthday Parties

Ah birthday parties, I have a serious love hate for them. I mean we have nine kids so it seems like every other day there's a party of some sort. My kids' schools have rules about birthday parties, if they invite a classmate it has to be all of the kids or their genders-boys invite all the boys, girls invite all the girls. As you can imagine having a transgender child with this rule can make it slightly difficult. I've had parents call me and ask which gender my child likes being addressed as and which birthday parties she should be invited to. I've also had parents who just invited the whole class to avoid the awkward conversation about which gender party she should go to. As to which offends me more, neither really do. They are at least being mature about it and not punishing my four year old for her differences and are allowing her to attend a birthday party. That is honestly something I was worried about that she wouldn't be invited to many parties because of being transgender, she is after all in a Christian preschool so I didn't know what to expect. Luckily most of the parents seem to be accepting or at least have decided not to voice their outrage, which I appreciate. The last thing I need is to drop my kid off at school and get yelled at because of how I've decided to raise them. So to the parents at our preschool, thanks for having our backs this passed year and thank you letting my daughter participate in something every child should be allowed to do.