Family Changes

Normally I post specifically about Callie and all the struggles she has, but our family is facing a huge change right now and I decided this was the best way to get it out. A year ago I met a guy, we had a instant connection. We were both single parents, both had four kids, both needed someone to lean on so we chose each other. We became friends and it turned into more. In August he asked me to marry him, I said yes. We had this awesome relationship of give and take until it wasn't. It was all one sided and I couldn't handle the yelling and the fighting anymore. We have decided, for now at least, to put our relationship on hold and see where life takes us. I totally and completely believe everything happens for a reason so if we are meant to be we will end up together. With that being said let's get to what everyone is worried about:The kids. Our kids have always been our number one priority and I vowed to help take care of his kids and treat them as my own, I plan on keeping that promise and to be a mother figure for them as long as they need me. We decided to give our kids the option to go visit the other parent on specific days, because legally only one of my kids needs to see him, I talked to my older ones about it and they agreed that they love him and want to see him and spend time with him when they have the chance. We decided that our kids need to be shown that they are still number one in our lives, we decided this for our family. I'm not entirely sure how other families do things when something like this happens, but for our nine we need them to know they have a mom AND dad who love them. For a year now this man has loved and supported my kids, he was there when Skyler was born, and was there when Callie got "diagnosed", he was there when Hunter learned to ride a bike, and when Brooke learned to read. My kids literally see this man as their dad and I need them to know that's ok. With that being said, this blog might have some posts about being a single mom now and the struggles of co-parenting. To my friends and family reading this, thanks for supporting and believing in us and hopefully you don't stop believing in us now.