My Child is a Bully!

With it being Black History Month, I wanted to take this time and talk to my kids about the importance of equality. Little did I know, I was going to be learning a bit about my kids. For instance, my one child is a bully. I won't name the child, but I will say the bulk of today has been me explaining what a bully is. Back story-the child told me a girl on their sports team is bullied for being different, not just the color of her skin but for other things as well. My child argued that because they never said anything directly to her they aren't a bully. This is where the fine line is drawn, if you are standing by watching someone be bullied in my opinion you are just as bad as the person doing the bullying. After explaining this to my child who was at this point in tears from defending themselves(note I didn't actually raise my voice once in this conversation), I told them that it takes one person to change someones life. I explained to them that this girl on their team might not have a good home life, she might not have anyone on her side and they need to be the one person to take a stand. Being as the child in question is still young I made the suggestion we invite the girl over for a playdate(which was answered with a sigh and eye roll because sass starts young). So long story short, we are beating up this bullying thing NOW! I am not about to write this off as just a kid thing, this is when it starts being so important to teach them to be kind to one another. After all of this and a playdate the child in question has told me the girl is nice and fun! They also learned that they just have to be kind. I'm hoping this lesson teaches all my kids that I take the bullying thing seriously and they have to stand up for people when people are being unkind to them. My goal is to raise kids who tear down Trump's wall of hate and it has to start now.