Being Good Co-Parents

We had a meeting today with my ex, his girlfriend, and our social worker. Our custody schedule was put in place and we talked about how to make holidays fair. Because of our schedule he gets them every weekend, that means- Mothers' Day, Fathers' Day, and Easter-the holidays that ALWAYS fall on Sundays-he will have them. He agreed that it wasn't fair and that we should figure out how to make it fair for our kids. I was impressed, this is the same guy who found out he was getting out and told me he would get 100% custody and never let me see the kids again. I guess the little talk with our social worker really paid off, because he realized it's not about him. That's something we all needed to realize, this isn't about us. It's about those kids who just want to be kids! They didn't ask for this and it's up to us to make it easy on them. So it's been decided that every birthday, despite what day they actually fall on will be celebrated with all of us. Every Easter, he will let me have them for a little bit to do our Easter things-dying eggs and I know he's happy about getting out of it he hates it. Baby steps for now, we have to figure out what exactly works for our family, but I'm glad he's willing to work with me instead of against me. That is truly the secret to being good co-parents in my opinion, if you can work together that outcome will be amazing.