Coparenting Struggles

For the passed few years, my ex and Hunter, Callie, and Skyler's dad has been in jail. I don't want to get into details about why he was in jail, but he deserved it. Moving on, he gets out in a few weeks. That means our custody arrangement needs updated. We were fighting to get 100% custody of them and not have any issues, but we were denied that for the older two. They feel it would be unnecessary stress for Skyler since she is two and the only dad she knows is Jason, however the older two remember their dad(sort of). So with that being said, we had to sit down with an attorney AND Callie's specialist and figure out what is the best for her. This is a little more complicated than your "normal" kids because her dad still sees her as his little boy and addresses her as "Noah". So this is something we have to seriously think about, how it will affect her and the progress she has made. We decided on 70% 30% for the custody-for now. However, I am afraid for any "anti LGTBQ" comments he may possibly make because I know him well enough to know he will say it to anyone. He really honestly doesn't care about how it makes anyone feel and has no filter, I know it will make Callie feel bad if anything were to happen in this situation and she would take it very personally. This is a really big change for us and I'm afraid of how it'll go. I am hoping and praying he proves me wrong and does his fatherly responsibilities because I have witnessed him be a dad and I know he can be a kick butt dad when he tries. Hunter is already looking forward to his dad getting out but has expressed concern about how it'll make Jason feel-he doesn't want Jason to feel left out! It's pretty awesome to see him get excited about something though, he is a very calm child and doesn't excite over much! So, to my lovely ex please prove me wrong and make me eat my words I will be more than happy to be wrong about you this time.