What do they call you?

When you foster you have a lot of things going through your mind, one of them for me was "What should the kids call me?". I knew if we fostered older kids they might not be comfortable calling us "dad" or "daddy" or anything along those lines so we settled on Mr. Ty and Mr. Caleb to keep it simple. We also let the kids know that if they wanted to call us dad they could, it was open to them and they got to choose which one was more comfortable for them. Our oldest understood that we were just her foster parents and that her biological parents were still out there and decided to call us by our names, her younger siblings followed her lead and called us our names until she was Okay with calling us dad. This is however where it gets tricky, having two dads can be super confusing so one of us had to go by a different name. It was kind of easy for me to decide to be the one "renamed" my dad never went by dad and still to this day goes by "Papa" by my siblings and myself, our kids also call him "Papa". So being a "dad" wasn't a huge deal to me, it's just a title, however Caleb really wanted that title. We decided on "dad" for him and "Papi" for myself, it seemed like a nice little play on "Papa" and a head tilt to my dad. The kids helped us decide on my name so it was a fun little family activity. However, if you're not in a gay relationship this probably doesn't apply to you and finding your name will be easy. I do still suggest getting the kids input on what they feel comfortable calling you, you have no idea what their lives were like prior to coming into your home and they may not be Okay with calling another person "mom" or "dad" read out the situation and do what fits best for you and your foster kids. Fostering isn't a perfect science and no two cases are the same.