It's kind of like kidnapping

It's been over four months since we brought home Ryker. Despite the fact he has started to finally warm up to us we still have a long way to go. I have been wondering for so long why he just hasn't started warming up to us sooner and it finally makes sense now that someone has explained it to me perfectly. Adoption is a little like kidnapping, now you have to stay with me before getting mad. Just think about it, Ryker didn't know us at all when we went to pick him up. We were strangers and we picked him up and he was crying and screaming and we were the ones holding him, two people he didn't know at all. The whole way home he was miserable and looking back I feel so bad for him. Jason and I knew that everything was going to be ok, we knew that we loved him, but this poor baby boy was only one year old and didn't know what was going to happen to him. His entire life was uprooted and he was being brought to a place he had no knowledge about. I couldn't even imagine being a kid in this situation. Don't get me wrong, I am very pro adoption- CLEARLY- but I am now a lot more sensitive to the situation, people kept telling me my son should be warmed up to us by now but I think he's just now realizing that we're good people and not going to hurt him. I don't blame him for taking so long to warm up to us, Jason and I knew we wanted him and promised to love him. We knew that it would be hard, having adopted Hunter and Callie, but they knew what was going on more than Ryker did. Adoption is a sensitive thing and affects all kids differently, it's kind of like giving birth in that way, you can have 19 kids and I guarantee all 19 births will be different. The same applies for adoption some, like Callie or Hunter, will respond perfectly being four years old and understanding we're going to take care of them. While others, like Ryker, respond exactly like my friend explained adoption-like they've been kidnapped. I hope and pray that as Ryker looks back on his life he doesn't see his adoption as a bad thing, this is something we wanted so badly and are extremely blessed for the situation we were put in to be given the gift of adopting him and I owe so much to his parents for allowing me to adopt him. So Ryker, if you read this one day I'm sorry for uprooting you and making you confused, but just know we all love you and you're going to do great things.