Have I failed my child?

The pediatrician and I agreed it was time to start working on Ryker's muscle tone as well as speech and pretty much everything else that we feel isn't up to par. So today we had someone come over to our house and evaluate his progress, she and I both said it was best to get him some extra help twice a week. Even though I know this is for the best and he needs this I still feel like I should be able to help my own son. I personally went through the same program that he is so I know that it's not because the parents are lazy, but I think I understand a little bit of how my parents felt. It's kind of a slap in the face because it's literally telling you your child is behind and there's nothing you personally can do about it. Regardless of how I feel however, I am glad that she agreed that we needed to start sooner rather than later. I also commented on how he's hitting milestones after Skyler who is 11 months old, she pointed out something I haven't thought of. Despite the fact he is technically 16 months old he hasn't had all the love and care that Skyler has making him developmentally probably around the same age or even younger. I never thought of it that way and she's right, from the moment Skyler was born Jason and myself as well as our kids have doted on her and taught her everything we could Ryker however has only had that for about three months. People might not think it's true, but loving your kid actually makes a huge difference in the progress they make and I'm glad Ryker has Skyler by his side for this and I'm glad the therapist agreed that Skyler could take the classes too just so Ryker felt a little better. This adoption has been anything but easy, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I know we're getting him the help he needs and I'm so glad that we are. Hopefully by this time next year Ryker is up to speed and maybe even hitting milestones before Skyler-I can dream right?!