Adoption:Bonding with your child

I figured I'd keep the adoption conversation going since we had a pretty positive response from the last post. Like I mentioned in the previous post we have had a hard time bonding with Ryker. It's not because we don't love him, I will stress that point until the day I die. We love him dearly and we love him just as much as all our other kids, it was just a rough start. Let's go back to the very first day we had him, it was just Jason and I, we chose to pick him up on a day where all of our other kids were at school and arranged to have my sister pick them up instead of us. We were hoping that this would give the three of us some good bonding time since we had a three hour drive home, it didn't work quite the way we planned. He screamed the entire way home and only stopped once to eat something. The only time he was happy was when we were feeding him. Once we got home we sat with him and got him some food and put Paw Patrol on, we were told he loved it, he was fine once that was on and sat on the couch happily. However if Jason or I tried to sit by him he would scream his head off. We decided not to push the issue and just let him warm up to us on his own time. When the kids got home we told them to give him some space and they did well with that, the boys played in the same room as him with some cars to see if he would warm up to them-it was a no go. Over the next few weeks I devoted my life to just bonding with him, I got every Paw Patrol book I could find and picked up a few toys. I quickly realized who his favorite character was and once I presented a Rubble toy to him I was good. He came for the toy and allowed me to hold him. He actually fell asleep while I was holding him that day. I'm not saying you have to bribe your adopted child, but I am saying showing them that you take interest in what they like shows that you care about them, that's what he needed to know. Since bringing him home he has warmed up to us a lot, he still doesn't just run up to us like our other kids to the moment we get home, but he will cuddle and play with us now. Those two things are huge steps and I couldn't be happier about them. I know with time he'll feel 100% comfortable in this family and I can't wait for that day, but I also realize his point of view and I am willing to give him as much time as he needs.