Dealing with miscarriage

With it being pregnancy and infant loss month I find myself thinking about Nolan a lot. Everything lately seems to be reminding me of him, even though I never really knew him in the way I know my other kids I feel like I did. Our fertility doctor always warns us about getting attached, but honestly it's next to impossible not to get attached to a baby that you're carrying. Despite the warnings and him reminding us that the chance of Jason and I conceiving naturally I still got attached to the little guy, picked out his name what his nursery would like like. Everything. Everything was completely planned when we found out he was gone it killed us. There is honestly no way to describe the pain we felt, yet people seem to think because he wasn't physically here with us that it's less pain that it's easier to move on. That my friends, isn't true in the slightest a child is a child no matter how small(thanks Dr. Seuss). To anyone who has ever dealt with the loss of a child, my heart is with you. Somehow, we will all make it through this.